All we have is today . . .

Really. We can plan for the future, but what do we have to live, but each day as it comes.
Time itself is an abstract reality . . . it cannot be held or stopped or fully understood with in this three-dimensional reality we exist within. And yet, we try and form it, hold it, mold, and possess time. . .  and in some instances that is possible; we have the choice to make our lives what we want, for the most part.

We get to choose life choices that shape and mold our realities . . . we have the blessing to choose how and where our life will unfold. There is no choice that exempts us from pain and struggle, obviously; but it is through these instances which we find ourselves . . . our courage, our truth, our life-lessons . . . there are no Disney endings,but there are those perfect moments . . .  perfect life that is easy and without pain . . . There are moments when our lives are wonderful and joyful, when time seems suspended and pain is withheld.
  

If I refuse to try, if I stand solely in fear, debilitated and paralyzed, allowing myself to continue patterns with the expectation that there will be a miracle, or a lightning bolt that will somehow alter my behavior, things will never change.

I will remain in place, and continue the pattern that continues my pain; stuck in a quagmire of pain. It is up to me to work through, to challenge and take chances again that will bring both pain and utter joy . . .  it is up to me alone to alter my behavior . . . that which has me stuck and unfulfilled . . .  unhappy.
I can choose life with all it’s lessons and al its glories . . . I can choose positivism, and to surround myself with supportive and caring people of my choosing, for the most part. I can chose to learn and grow, rather than being satisfied with the level which is handed to me.

I have the courage, I have the strength, to alter events and situations in my life  . . . things happen to everyone . . . everyone has pain and situations . . . everyone has baggage the key is whether they USE that baggage and experiences to better themselves, or remain – stuck. I have seen individuals who remain, stuck in the pain, always trying to rectify that situation and never learning from it – they are unable to allow themselves to move on and take a lesson from the situation; sometimes a situation is just about the lesson it brings, not the rectification of it.

So they remain, attempting to forever rectify something that is never rectifiable . .  and I find that terribly sad. I wish they could realize that every situation has elements which are uncontrollable, and life continues . . . I wonder about what they miss, what wonder and excitement, and sadness, and joy they are missing by being self-relegated . . . handcuffing themselves into their own prison of pain with the attempt to rectify the past . . . when all we really have is the present and the future . . .